Lie naked in bed and take turns trying to discover the tensest spot in your spouse’s body. Use lotion to lubricate your searching touch while your spouse tries mentally to guide you to the single tensest area. No talking is allowed, and even though the genitals or other erotic zones might be the tensest areas at a given time, remember to touch everywhere so you don’t miss a spot. Couples reported that they could learn to lead their spouses right to the spot.

One husband stated, «What I liked was not touching just for sex. It was fun, almost a game, but we sort of merged, my hands, her hands, our thoughts. She led me to my spot, too, or I directed her with my thoughts. We just both knew when we found the spots. Just like you told us, when we found the spot, we gave it a gentle kiss and then switched who did the touching and who had the spot.»

Nongenitally focused touching, mutual cooperation, combining physical and mental processes, and learning to cooperate sensually can all result from this procedure.

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